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Some first date
tips.
So, you’ve got
past the fumbling first contact stage and
you and your soon to be date have decided to
take it the next level by meeting for a
first date in the flesh. She asked you what
you had planned for the weekend; you replied
nothing planned and so it went from there.
You’ve agreed you should meet on Saturday
but that’s all. You’re going to discuss the
options and the details further when you’re
both online tonight. The problem is you
don’t really know what to do or where to
take them. Here are a few first date tips
that should help you along the way.
Where to go.
If you followed
our tips on creating a
sizzling portfolio and responding to
correspondence then you should still have
quite an air of mystery and excitement about
you. Offering to take her to the pub for a
few drinks and to shoot some pool is going
to shatter that illusion completely. There
has to be something unusual to do in your
area. Perhaps there’s a local vineyard or a
boat restaurant. Even a day at the lake is
unusual and cheap boat hire for a little
motorboat is virtually nothing compared to
an expensive night out. Maybe go ten-pin
bowling or if you are both really
adventurous go karting or paintballing is a
good option. Try to make sure it’s a public
place, even if it’s going to be dead. Offer
that little safety and reassurance that only
comes with people around.
Politeness and
flirting.
You’ve already
been
flirting online
or you wouldn’t have
made it this far. However, flirting steps
into a different dimension off Instant
Messenger. Now, it’s mostly down to body
language and eye contact. Use both wisely
and pay her (or him) a couple of well-placed
compliments. You still shouldn’t be going
overboard but this is an opportunity for you
both to have some fun flirting so take that
opportunity.
Don’t try it on
too soon.
When things seem
to have gone well during the date it’s
instinct to go for the goodnight kiss but
even if your date backs away that doesn’t
mean they’re not interested at all, they’re
just not interested yet. The transition from
online date to real world date can be
difficult for some people and they ay have
forgotten that you’ve been chatting for so
long. If you’re the male half of the date
you should always offer to accompany your
date home but don’t take an acceptance of
this to mean you’re going in for coffee. If
the mood is right then by all means try the
first kiss otherwise just wait; give her a
peck on the cheek and a big thank you for a
fantastic night then go home. Email her when
you get back to say something like ‘just
emailing to say I had a fantastic night,
would you like to do it again some time?’.
This way you are enforcing a mental
connection between your online persona and
the real you.
Read
" Online Date Safety Tips"
Or " Match Making For Beginners"
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